In recent days, Hedley has been accused of sexual assault by many women. I’m in no way denying these acts happened. I mean, they’re a rock band. It’s kind of in the job description. However, even with the allegations against them, I am still going to support the guys, their music, and their career. Here’s why:
HEDLEY SAVED MY LIFE
I was in high school when Hedley released their first album. I was also your typical teenager who was just trying to get through the worst four years of her life. High school was not a good experience for me. I had a few friends, and a few fake friends, but that didn’t change the fact I was constantly bullied. I was never an outgoing person, which meant my anger and my anxiety always got the better of me. I came to a point where I wanted to die. That’s where Hedley comes in.
I was sitting outside of the drama room eating my lunch when I heard music coming from inside. I went in to find out who was in there and what they were listening to. This girl had brought in her Hedley CD, and was listening to it while she ate her lunch. I knew immediately that this music was something special. It made me feel something I hadn’t felt for a few years: happy. I got ahold of their CD, and would listen to it over and over and over and over again on repeat.
For my remaining years in hell, I mean high school, I would drown myself in their music until I felt better. Not only did they save my life, they saved my sanity. And I managed to finish high school and never look back.
Fast forward to when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. I thought I had my emotions under control, but in reality I was denying everything that was happening around me. I didn’t want to believe she was as sick as she was. I was in such denial, I moved to England for a few months and didn’t return until a few days after her death in 2010. Hedley helped me through that too. The months following her funeral were brutal. I was angry. I felt abandoned by the one person I thought would always be there. But the one thing I could count on, was the music of Hedley. I could put my headphones on and just fade away.
Now as I write this, I find myself in need of the musical therapy Hedley brings. Two years ago my sister was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer. It’s only a matter of time now before she’ll be gone. It’s my biggest fear come to life. My sister has always been there for me. She took me in when I had no where to go, and after 8 years of living with her and her family, I finally started to feel like I’m home. She did that. She has helped me so much. Through the good times, and the bad. She’s given me life advice, and taught me so much. No matter what’s happened in my life, she has always been there. And even though she is still here, there will come a time when she’s not, and I will need to bathe in the healing powers of Hedley’s music.
HEDLEY IS MAGICAL
Their music is inspirational, it’s uplifting, and most of all it makes me feel happy. After everything I’ve gone through in life, I finally found something that works. To quote Better Days:
And I’ll keep praying I make it
Like someone worth saving
I still got some fight left inside me
That is just one example of how uplifting their music can be. I was feeling extremely depressed, but after listening to Better Days, my mood was lifted. Hedley reminds me that not everything in the world is bad. It pulls me through even the worst depressive episodes.
So before you make a snap judgement and write them off completely, just remember what their music is capable of. In light of the Me Too movement, it’s all too easy to write someone off after allegations have been made. Just make sure you educate yourself before judging someone. There’s a very fine line between sexual assault, and a bad experience or date. Very thin, but still visible.