After The Allegations: Why I Stand With Hedley

In recent days, Hedley has been accused of sexual assault by many women. I’m in no way denying these acts happened. I mean, they’re a rock band. It’s kind of in the job description. However, even with the allegations against them, I am still going to support the guys, their music, and their career. Here’s why:

HEDLEY SAVED MY LIFE

I was in high school when Hedley released their first album. I was also your typical teenager who was just trying to get through the worst four years of her life. High school was not a good experience for me. I had a few friends, and a few fake friends, but that didn’t change the fact I was constantly bullied. I was never an outgoing person, which meant my anger and my anxiety always got the better of me. I came to a point where I wanted to die. That’s where Hedley comes in.

I was sitting outside of the drama room eating my lunch when I heard music coming from inside. I went in to find out who was in there and what they were listening to. This girl had brought in her Hedley CD, and was listening to it while she ate her lunch. I knew immediately that this music was something special. It made me feel something I hadn’t felt for a few years: happy. I got ahold of their CD, and would listen to it over and over and over and over again on repeat.

For my remaining years in hell, I mean high school, I would drown myself in their music until I felt better. Not only did they save my life, they saved my sanity. And I managed to finish high school and never look back.

Fast forward to when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. I thought I had my emotions under control, but in reality I was denying everything that was happening around me. I didn’t want to believe she was as sick as she was. I was in such denial, I moved to England for a few months and didn’t return until a few days after her death in 2010. Hedley helped me through that too. The months following her funeral were brutal. I was angry. I felt abandoned by the one person I thought would always be there. But the one thing I could count on, was the music of Hedley. I could put my headphones on and just fade away.

Now as I write this, I find myself in need of the musical therapy Hedley brings. Two years ago my sister was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer. It’s only a matter of time now before she’ll be gone. It’s my biggest fear come to life. My sister has always been there for me. She took me in when I had no where to go, and after 8 years of living with her and her family, I finally started to feel like I’m home. She did that. She has helped me so much. Through the good times, and the bad. She’s given me life advice, and taught me so much. No matter what’s happened in my life, she has always been there. And even though she is still here, there will come a time when she’s not, and I will need to bathe in the healing powers of Hedley’s music.

HEDLEY IS MAGICAL

Their music is inspirational, it’s uplifting, and most of all it makes me feel happy. After everything I’ve gone through in life, I finally found something that works. To quote Better Days

And I’ll keep praying I make it
Like someone worth saving
I still got some fight left inside me

That is just one example of how uplifting their music can be. I was feeling extremely depressed, but after listening to Better Days, my mood was lifted. Hedley reminds me that not everything in the world is bad. It pulls me through even the worst depressive episodes.

So before you make a snap judgement and write them off completely, just remember what their music is capable of. In light of the Me Too movement, it’s all too easy to write someone off after allegations have been made. Just make sure you educate yourself before judging someone. There’s a very fine line between sexual assault, and a bad experience or date. Very thin, but still visible.

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Thank You Hedley

Thank You Hedley

I STILL STAND WITH HEDLEY

My birthday was this past weekend. March 10th, the night Hedley was in Kitchener, Ontario. I went to the show not knowing what to expect since the allegations, but the band didn’t fail to out perform themselves. They were lively and they were excited to be there. Of course I’m sure they’re excited wherever they perform, but they made their audience feel special. I will admit the crowd wasn’t as enthusiastic as they normally would be, but that’s not the bands fault. Normally there would be an opening act, however both dropped out. And I get it.

Being there reminded me of what these guys are capable of. They are capable of making someone feel something after so much time of feeling numb. As I’ve said before, their music has gotten me through some really difficult times. In the last 2 years I’ve watched my sister battle cancer. It’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to live through. She’s still alive, but for how much longer? And I can tell you right now, when she’s gone I will turn to Hedley. Their music is the one thing I can count on to help me through it.

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During the show, Jacob gave an empowering speech that brought me to tears. He talked about how much us fans mean to him, and how thankful he is we are still here to support the band. Without us they wouldn’t be able to do what they love.

I of course still support the band. No matter how much time they take off after this, if they regroup and come back, I will be there to buy their next album. I will also be there to buy concert tickets should they go back on tour. I in part owe my life to these guys.

So, thank you Hedley for giving me the time of my life. Thank you for making music that has had such an amazing impact on my life. I am forever grateful for everything your music has accomplished.